Imagine your life is a play. You are the star of the show. coque iphone 6 You are also the director looking down and watching all the characters and experiences that unfold In your world. Since only some things in life are predestined, the choices that you and others around you make build the story of your life. coque iphone xr You also have the ability to help rewrite the script. I have been traveling a lot meeting people for private sessions. It is a joy to read for everyone and a bonus to meet you in person! No matter if I am in America, Canada, The Netherlands or South Africa (thank you for my recent amazing adventure, and warm welcome) I find that there is an overall theme of lessons that weaves through all of our story lines. First is self love, another is dealing with loss. The loss of a loved one who has crossed over and the loss of a relationship where both parties are still alive on the earth plane. Those of us that believe in the spirit world and the world of energy seem to be more sensitive to other people’s feelings. coque iphone 6 They are the givers in life. Sometimes generous to a fault. The first true love is self love. It doesn’t mean you are selfish. It means that your needs matter! When you go on an airplane and the safety instructions are given, they always say in case of an emergency put your oxygen mask on before helping others. I recently read for the most wonderful group of ladies in South Africa. None of them knew one another before the meeting.They were lovely! In most all my groups the people who are suppose to be there attend. In fact, it’s like the guides use divine intervention in choosing the group and most always there is so much more of a connection between them than just the readings they get. One of the girls, a beautiful woman, had a husband who was emotionally and psychologically abusive. He controls everyone with his money, including their only child. In fact, this dysfunctional #%^#* (bleep) is ganging up against his wife with the teenage daughter like the mean girls in high school. When someone puts you down enough times, you begin to believe it. Over forty years ago I was married for a short time. A radio station wanted to interview me. I was so excited to share my new found purpose and ability to help people. I called him after the interview so wanting his approval and he said “I wasn’t impressed. You should go back to speech school”. I finally got tired of this a few years later and we divorced. coque iphone It took time to build up myself esteem. It will take time for her as well but I know she will succeed! There was a young 20 year old girl in the same group. She has experienced more loss in her young life than most in midlife. I saw her mother in spirit Who suffered from cancer. coqueiphone She had passed some years ago way before her time! There wasn’t a dry eye in the room. I think all the women in the room wanted to adopt her. The woman I just wrote about said, “I think I knew your mom”. Indeed! They figured it out and she knew her! They are going to go out for lunch. This young girl who had other great premature losses also exuded an amazing strength of faith. An old soul in a young body teaching each one of us a lesson in coping with great loss. By the time they left, emails and phone numbers were being exchanged. After one morning, 7 strangers had become 7 friends. I ask you to think about your life. The choices you make. Do you come from a place of strength or weakness? Do you embrace your self love? Do you cope with loss with faith or do you become a victim? You have control of the pen on paper. Make sure you direct the scenes of your life with wisdom and care. Wishing you a happily ever after! Write on…
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Brugh Joy: Shadow,Ego,Self
This piece from W. Brugh Joy, M.D. was written towards the end of his life in the fall of 2009.
“Unconditioned/Unconditional Love Transcends the Self and gives the Self the cohesiveness of a Center of Being that is Supernally Conscious of the vast and unpartitioned Whole, the Eternal Forces or the Holyland…the archetypal fixed that are universal, unchanging, concentrated in potency, that can, from time to time transcend the material forces of form and function. Within this Center of Self lie two other centers of Awareness. Although neither the Ego nor the Shadow are the same as the Awareness of the Self…they are intricately and intimately related to the Self and under its unfurling dynamic in Temporality. The Ego and Shadow are specialized and limited aspects of the Self and function primarily to engage the Three Pillars of Temporality…Mystery of Change….Mystery of Differences….Mystery of Creative Adaptation and unfoldment.
The Shadow is the Self’s reservoir of Unconsciously expressed aspects of the Self that operate to maintain the overall balance and intention of the Self in specific relationship to the Ego…of which the surface sense of self, the ego, is only part of the Ego. There is nothing in the Ego or the Shadow that determines whether or not the balancing forces of the Self are activated. The Self is the source and the implementer of both Ego and Shadow interaction. The Shadow must not integrate Ego. The Ego must not integrate Shadow. It is the Self…when both timing of maturation of developmental dynamics and the supporting forces of the Self are in alignment that will activate the dissolution of both the Ego and the Shadow into a full reflection of Itself.
There is a problem when the Ego decides it is going to integrate the Shadow and vice versa. Too soon a conscious realization of the Self’s Shadow by the Ego or the Shadow’s conscious realization of the Self’s Ego would disrupt either secondary center and rupture the primary integrity of the Self in Time and Place…..in other words…in Temporality.
The Shadow fulfills the wholeness of the Self….is modulated by the Self and only becomes a conscious part of self when the Self begins the Wholeing or Holy task of uniting Shadow and Ego ….a Soul Mystery of uncertain outcome. When the personality or ego begins to take charge of dreams and possesses the dynamics ….a mishandling of the Holy Forces occurs. Really…the ego is the witness to the Self/Ego/Shadow development.
Remember….The Self, The Ego, and The Shadow don’t really exist per se but appear as epiphenomena issuing out of interacting forces. The interacting forces express uniquely depending upon what primary combination of interacting forces are present in any given individual in any given place, and in any given time.
Out of nothing all of this has come…..into nothing all of this will go…Don’t be too concerned about the aberration of Light.
To be re-emphasized….The Ego is not the source of the Shadow and the Shadow is not the source of Ego. The Shadow does not have to be made conscious to the Ego to effect its Holy Mission. The Ego does not have to be conscious to the Shadow to effect its Holy Mission. Both Ego and Shadow are completely under the egis of the Self. The Shadow modulates…the Ego orients. The unconscious forces that make up the Ego and the Shadow are Transpersonal and Holy. They must not be appropriated by either the Ego or the Shadow and certainly not by the ego….the surface awareness.
Shadow formation is never a conscious process nor does it need to be made conscious. It functions best unconsciously….just as the forces of the Ego operate best unconsciously. The Shadow can live through an individual, a family, a clan, a tribe, a community, a nation, and all of Humanity as a function of the intrinsic nature of Temporality/Manifestation/Time/Space. It is a part of Divinity’s (Self’s) Homeostasis or the Holy Love mystery of Balance. It is innate to the Wholeness or Holiness of Self.
The Shadow, as a natural aspect of homeostasis, operates (erupts) from time to time in the life of the conscious self Ego or larger and larger group awareness as a surprise/shocking action, illness, accident, slips of tongue, nightmare dreams, and self-sabotaging, and as Evil or the Dark face of Divinity when the surface awareness is biased to positivity.
The Shadow operates in the unexpected miraculous and inspired action, healing, inexplicable knowing to avoid a potential destructive moment, truth saying without karma in conversation, spontaneous healing, restorational dreams, self-acceptance and self love, and finally as Self Realization of the Beauty of God when the surface awareness (Conscious Ego) is biased to negativity.
The Ego is not the primary center of Awareness….the Self is.
The Shadow is not the primary center of awareness…the Self is.
The ego is the reflecting witness.
The unfoldment of a life is driven by the unconscious dynamics between Self…the Shadow…and the Ego. What the ego is aware of is mostly socialization attitudes, biases, preferences, and filtered perceptions.
The Self is the only responsible agent for the entire mystery of one’s life. Free will of the Shadow or of the Ego is an illusion generated out of a limited awareness. When witnessing the Divine Play of one’s Life…best not to appropriate any of what is seen, revealed, or experienced as personal.
The Self, The Ego, and The Shadow operate in time and out of time. The ego operates almost exclusively in time. The Ego is the chief organ of Temporal Awareness.
The Self….the Deepest Divine Mystery…may or may not elect to become conscious to the Ego.
Suggesting that C.G.Jung’s overarching view point ….that the great task of individual consciousness is to become more and more conscious…might not be, in any way the mandate to humanity. To the contrary….the great task of individual consciousness is to realize that the greatest mystery lies in darkness, the unconsciousness, and the mystery of manifestation and the impossibility of consciousness to encompass unconsciousness! The most astonishing, awesome, mind boggling, staggering, and incomprehensively complex manifestations took place without any secondary consciousness and certainly not by the consciousness presumed by humankind.
The most fundamental Realization is that consciousness or light is an aberrant and fundamentally temporary phenomenon of darkness to handle motion and change. Light and consciousness are both mostly interferences and most rarely a witness and handmaiden to the action of Self. Ego Consciousness is the carrier of the Soul’s incarnation into a specific time and a specific place. It is an interference of wholeness because it is differentiating and discerning. The Shadow is the Ego’s counterpart reflecting the Ego’s unconscious complements and vice versa. Gestation is the great principle of Darkness.”…W. Brugh Joy, M.D.